Family Stress & Coping
Let’s face it,
we all have dealt with stress in our lives as some point in time or another. Stress is defined as, “strain or tension”. People can react, or respond differently to
different stressor in their lives. A few examples the way brain naturally responds
to stress are listed as the following. Depression, in this case the frontal lobe the
creative problem-solving portion of the brain) shuts off. The brain can perceive
the stressor as, there is no escape from danger. Another natural response is anxiety
or a panic attack. “The emotional
memories stored in the central part of the amygdala may play a role in anxiety disorders
involving very distinct fears, such as fears of dogs, spiders, or flying. The
hippocampus is the part of the brain that encodes threatening events
into memories.” (Henry, Alan). It’s almost as if the brain is going into alarm
mode. Its saying hey there is danger, and let me help you, I know how to help. The
final response that I would like to share is, shut down digestion mode. The
brain is trying to find the root of the problem and the perception of the individual,
is saying I don’t think that I can handle this, and the brain sends a message to
the metabolic system, hey let’s go ahead and shut down. Between eight to twelve
percent of Americans struggle with a well know syndrome that causes the metabolic
system to shut down, IBS (Irritable bowel syndrome). The perception can be, I
need a direct out of the reaction to stress.
Did we ever
stop and think that our brains are created to find solutions, our brain can
help us solve these stressors? An imperative
concept that I have learned throughout my life is this, “Fear and Faith cannot
co-exist”. If individuals can understand the different cortexes of the brain
and their functions, they may even come to understand that they can redirect their
thoughts and allow creative solutions to happen. Perhaps, the perception may be
redirected and allow stress to be a “marvelous opportunity” to learn from.
I would like
to share a few centers of the brain and how they function with in each human
being. The frontal cortex which consist of 38% of the brain is known as the “god
center of the brain”, is the creative problem-solving center. The Limbic System
(mammillothalamic) is located in the stem of the brain. This part of the brain
deals with the emotions, metabolic, heart rate, breathing, and digestion. This
system can essentially run on auto pilot. There is one more part of the limbic system
that I would like to discuss, the Parietal lobe. The lobe that allows human of self-awareness.
This lobe when allowed, can turn on and allow the individual to calm down. If individuals
could tap in and understand how to redirect their thoughts and allow this
portion of the brain to function properly, this could help anyone understand to
respond cognitively, rather than react. The tools have been given, its learning
and understanding in how to utilize them.
I would like
to share an example that might allow one to see what I may be talking about and
allow stress to be an opportunity. And
for this example, I’m going to be using the family system because I think every
family has experience what is known as a, CRISIS. What are some crises that
family’s may experience? A few examples,
death, divorce, loss of a job or being laid off, a loved one struggling with addiction,
illness, etc. What happens to the family when they go through a crisis? The
family structure changes. Reuben Hill created a model for stress within crisis,
the model is known as the ABC and ABCX. A= actual event (stressor event), B=
The family crisis- Meeting resources (both resources and responses), C= Crisis (cognitions
relevant). I believe that one of the hardest thing for a family to experience
is a family crisis. However, this can be a learning experience, to understand
the resources available, and gain experience and knowledge for the future. What happens when a second crisis happens? It
may be the same exact thing a few years down the road, or it may be something completely
different. The most important thing I personally have had to learn is not to go
into shut down mode, or some may call it, flight for fight mode. I need to tap
into that parietal lobe and calm down. I must think what resources do I have available?
I have been here before how I can reach out if the sources are slim? Perhaps the
family is better prepared and can respond to the crisis and possibly allow
growth. It may be that it might be a few times the family will have to endeavor
these challenging times of growth. It literally can make or break a family
system.
God has given
all a powerful, complex, and creative organ, the brain. Wouldn’t it be
marvelous if we could learn to understand ourselves better? What if we learned
how to redirect our thoughts? What if we could truly understand that, fear and
faith cannot co-exist? What if we allowed stress to be a growing and stretching
opportunity?
Henry, Alan.
“What Anxiety Does to Your Brain and What You Can Do About It.”Lifehacker,
Lifehacker.com, 20 Nov. 2013,
lifehacker.com/what-anxiety-actually-does-to-you-and-what-you-can-do-a-1468128356.
I thought I
would add some pictures of places that has allowed me to feel closer to our Savior and His creations. They are pictures that allow me to tap into that
inner serenity. One of my favorite Prayers,
Serenity
prayer: God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
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